是不是期待点开就配送一个高分模版?助力托福30,满分120?
任何领域的成功:大至事业爱情学业,小至一个科目满分游戏成功通关,人生里的每一个大大小小的经历,其实都没有太多捷径可循。没有某个套用于某个成功人士的经验模版,可以完全适用于另一个人。
但是要接近于那个理想的目标,有件事做了一定不会错,那就是:开始去做点什么。
2017年了,在告别旧的年份迎来新的希望的节点,我们都会开始思考很多问题。比如:人生意义?新年要怎么重新开始?
你问我人生的意义是什么?这个问题太大,人类历史上下千年,都没人能给出一个确切的答案,我的人生经验太浅,不敢妄言;
你问我喜欢的那个人要不要开始去追?这个问题太感性,擅长逻辑思维的我可能帮你客观分析了一万字这件事的因果联系和不靠谱之后,一句“我喜欢”就足以打肿我的脸;
但是你问我关于托福写作应该怎么考到满分或是高分,我能笃定的告诉你,多读书。至少现在开始去读书。
因为我们不能奢望,只靠所谓模版句的花式框架,就能拼凑出一个满分,就像我们不能期待学韩剧的男主角的霸道总裁套路就能搞定那个萌萌的学妹;学励志传记里的成功哲学,就能一夜成名走上人生巅峰。任何事物有他们所处的环境,就像单词运用不能脱离了某个语境,语言表达不能背离了上下文。
在这里要先提到一本书---Leanin
这本书对我的启发很大,作者是Facebook首席运营官Sheryl Sandberg,关于女性、职场还有鼓励女性向前一步、追求领导地位。
2011年麦肯锡一项报告表明,在职场上,男性升职是基于对其潜力的评估,而女性升职则是基于过去的成就。即使在当前,我们也很难期待一个绝对平等的职场环境,但是这本书针对于如何改善种种这样的不平等,作者给出了许多中肯可行的建议,对于女性权利也有很多客观的思考。这本书当然推荐女性看,但同时强烈建议男性也能去看,不光能了解很多平时注意不到的女性所受到的不平等待遇,也能从这里获得关于如何支持自己的伴侣、提升家庭幸福感的建议。
书里曾经有这么一段描述对于自己一段失败的婚姻的感受:
“I was just not mature enough to have made this lifelong decision, and the relationship quickly unraveled. By the age of twenty-five, I had managed to get married…and also divorced. at the time, this felt like a massive personal and public failure.
For many years, I felt that no matter what I accomplished professionally, it paled in comparison to the scarlet letter D stitched on my chest.
(Almost ten years later, I learned that the “good ones” were not all taken, and I wisely and very happily married Dave Goldberg.)
p.s: 她好不容易遇到真爱,以为就要幸福美满了,Dave Goldberg却在2015年5.1离世了,所以说世事难料,要珍惜眼前的美好时光,Sigh)
说到伤心难过,是不是你脑子里出现的都是“so sad”
想说没得比,是不是出现了“compare”?
所以读书真的能让我们学到很多写作里的表达,你并不需要背各种长难词,而是用活你已经掌握的、这一类等级基本为高中词汇的词。
来看一个学生的写作范例:
话题关于:It is better to make new friends than to keep old friends.
学生(Apple)想表达的分论点是:和老朋友在一起更舒服更开心。她写的是:
The hilarity with new friends pales in comparison to the soft hours with old friends.
Those new friends barely have a grasp of your preference and personality. Suppose that you’re an introvert, who are not so good at socializing, or even tooshy to talk in front of a group of people. You may prefer to go to a quiet cafe for a private date with only a few of your close friends. Therefore, it’ll not be surprising if you turn down an invitation to go to a stranger’s birthday party with over a hundred people, with your new friends. However, your new friend may not know that it’s because of your personality, and misinterpret it as asign of saying no to the new relationships. On the other hand, your old friends probably won’t even ask you that kind of question, because they’ve already known that you’re not interested, and they can understand that it’s not because you don’t care about them.
用对的词,比用难的词,更重要。
2017年希望同学们都能够坚持阅读,为写作输入有效素材。为未来留学生涯里写不完的论文生涯做好充分准备。最后,也在新年的开端里,给大家分享几句在2016年里对我影响最深的几句话,也让大家感受一下,简单的单词,文字,有时候可以组合出多少关于人生的妙不可言:
1. 什么是成长?
Often,it is not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are.
- Heath L.Buckmaster
通常,长大并不是让你成为一个新的人,而是成为一个你注定要成为的人,并且,你已经是那个人了
2. 如何看待遗憾与错过?
Sometimes you are aware when your great moments are happening, and sometimes they rise from the past. Perhaps it’s the same with people.
- James Salter,Burning the Days
有时你能够感知到那些生命中的伟大时刻
或许他们早已降临
而你却一无所知
一如你身边即将遇见,或已擦肩的
人来人往
3. 如何看待人生?
Life’s but awalking shadow, a poor player that struts and frets his hour upon the stage.And then is heard no more. It is a tale told by and idiot, full of sound and fury,signifying nothing.
- Shakespeare, Macbeth
人生不过一个行走而过的剪影
我们粉墨登场
在舞台上手舞足蹈,拼尽全力
去讲述一个不会再被人记起的故事
片刻光阴后,便在无声息中悄然退场
这是一个愚人所讲述的故事
即使充满喧嚣嘶吼,演绎的刻骨铭心
却终究一无所指
《麦克白》
我们不过是这样渺小的存在
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